a personal style blog by Lauren Pfieffer

Thursday, January 2, 2014

Cat Attack.

Scalloped Pink Coat (comes in light pink and yellow, too!): c/o OASAP.
Cat Fur Lined Leggings (my aunt got me the same ones but in tights for Christmas): c/o OASAP.
Black Lace Dress: Forever21.
Lace Up Boots: H&M.
Raspberry Beret, Black Vintage Gloves: Thrifted.
Lipstick in Forever21's velvet lipstick glosses.

Hello everyone!
I get a lot of emails from slightly younger girls who are in high school, unsure of what to do with their life or frustrated in the situation they're in. Although I've been out of high school for almost two years now, I still remember having these feelings and how strong and confining they were.

It's scary to have to pick what college you want to go to and what you want to do with the rest of your life. It wasn't entirely easy for me and I don't want anyone to think that. Although I found the right college quickly and haven't changed my major, that doesn't mean it's how it goes every time. 

Each individual story is different. The key to 'success' in transitioning from high school to college is simply just finding out what it is that you love. I've met a lot of people in college who go through half of their experience miserable with their major and for what? They waste two or three years and by the time they figure out they don't want to study that anymore, they're behind and have to stay longer. Do yourself a kind favor and think about what it is you really love to do before you declare a major. Not what your parents want you to do, what will make you the most money, or even what you feel like is just an 'alright' fit. Find a major you wake up every day being excited to learn more about and advance in. Don't kill yourself stressing about it in high school. Here's an inside clue--most people in college still don't know what they want to do, and even if they do stick with a major, it's not without a lot of doubts and second thoughts.

I've just been super blessed to have found what I love to study early on. But did you know in high school I wanted to be a Spanish teacher? SO different than my current major! It was a process for me though in finding out what I loved and what I was passionate about, versus what I just thought would make me happy.

Don't spend all of high school freaking out. I used up so much of my time worrying and fretting about grades and college and the future and it got me no where. I'm telling you right now in hindsight--I could have done without every single bit of worrying. Forget the ACT, the finals, the deadlines, the essays for a minute and just know that it is all in God's hands. Things will work out or not work out as they should and there is a greater plan for you. Put your cares and worries on Him-- it has helped me so much in college to know this, and is something I wished I would have done for myself throughout high school.

Life will go on after all of this high school stress and you'll realize that instead of enjoying the moment, you worried it away too much for a future that is going to work out just the way it should. Take a breather, drink some tea, and know that all will be okay

With much love, Lauren.


Natasha Atkerson said...

Adorable tights! So unique!
And great words of wisdom!
I graduated this year, I distinctly remember about four years ago freaking out about what I should do after graduation. God really spoke to me and I felt like He was telling me- trust Me and you'll be fine. Just rest in Me. It's very freeing to trust Hod like that, to not have to worry!
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Sara said...

I remember going through the same things. Especially when I was still in high school, I often freaked out about graduating and was really scared for the future. But on graduation day, I held my head up and smiled and realized that life would go on. You just gotta keep trucking through it all. Challenges arise to test your strength, but they are only negative if you let them beat you. Fight back, and your whole perspective changes. Great advice Lauren, and as usual ah-dorable outfit. The coat and leggings are especially cute. :)
-Sara, www.theladyhood.blogspot.com

Unknown said...

Such wonderful words of comfort for young people. High school was a miserable time for me, so much that I never really gave much thought what I wanted to do with my life. I just wanted out. But everything works out, for sure, as long as you tune into the right frequency and listen with your heart.

And of course since I am a big fan of cats and an even bigger fan of tights, those are so wonderful, dear. And your legs look stunning in them. I am also a fan of bright colors so the coat gets a big thumbs up as well.

So glad to hear your strong, positive attitude expressed in your sweet, caring words, your writers voice. It is quite impressive and heartening :) xx

Creme de la Chic said...

Such cute tights! They are absolutely precious :)
Love the pink color too--so pretty in pink!

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Sara said...

This is possibly my FAVORITE outfit of yours! EVER! I love everything from the tights to the coat! you look amazing!


Ashley of Southern (California) Belle said...

You look adorable as always Lauren! That coat is to die for. I hope 2014 is a wonderful year for you ♥

Elissa Ann said...

Aaah! Dearest Lauren, as a 16 year old high school junior who is thoroughly unsure about the future, this beautiful post could not have come at a better time for me! ♥ Thank you so much... oh my gosh. I have been praying about this so much, and have spent way too much time fretting and worrying and trying to figure it all out, and God really answered my prayers by this.
It has really helped me to calm my flurried spirit and take a few deep breaths. I honestly needed this lovely reminder so much. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Ok, now I'm just rambling - I'll stop. :)
I love you!

Neeti M H said...

I love those tights. They are adorable <3 Fuschia is one of my fav colors though I do not wear it at all. Just feel it too overwhelming on my skin tone. But I really love it on you. That lip color is amazing as well.

Sophie said...

You always have such pearls of wisdom Lauren! I adore the pink coat.

Unknown said...

such a sweet outfit! love this shade of pink, so pretty!
you have an amazing blog, adorable post! <3
Emma xx

Katie Aman said...

Even after college one goes through the same struggles. I finished my education degree and graduated, and am now finding out that I hate it and wish I would have gone into a different field. Life is full of constant change and as you said, figuring out what you love is important!
I love this sweet pink look on you. The close up photo with your lashes all snowy/sparkly is just magical!

Kezzie said...

I'm guessing you feel a little cold, ya? However, this is one awesome outfit!!! What is it about scallops that makes them a fashion winner?? Really, are they tights??? Really want a pair now as I contemplated some similar tights from asos but worried they'd just ladder in an instant!
Re the advice, you say a lot that is very wise and true. I never doubted I wanted to study music and was so blessed in my choice of uni. My husband was miserable in his. My sister chose teacher training on an awful course and quit after 3minths. Best thing she did as it led to a job that meant she met her husband and has a secure job! X

Anonymous said...

It's so nice that so many of your clothes are thrifted and vintage. Not many people realize how cute thrifted clothes can be!

Unknown said...

I just love how girly and awesome this outfit is. I'll always have a soft spot for pink and black paired together. This coat is just the most gorgeous shade of pink and your cat tights are adorable.

And hooray for being a positive role model for younger girls!

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