Reflections in Personal Style Over 15 Years

THE BEGINNING 

Sometimes it's hard to believe I've been sharing outfits on the internet since I was 16. This year will mark 15 years of documenting all the ups and downs of my style and I've been reflecting on this journey.

This blog started in 2009, when Instagram wasn't even around yet and Tumblr was still in its infancy. At the time, I drew most of my fashion inspiration from magazines. I loved to spend hours at the local Barnes & Noble browsing the high brow ones like Elle, Harpers Bazaar and Marie Claire. My mom used to get subscriptions to a few others and I'd cut out the designer shoes and hand bags, making collages of items I dreamed of owning when I was an adult. 

The other source of inspiration I turned to were fashion blogs. Blogs were gaining popularity, especially in the fashion space. Tavi Gevinson, Bryan Boy and Sea of Shoes were some of my big name favorites, but it was the smaller, more niche vintage blogs I really connected to. Vintage was having a moment, and it really was its own subculture in fashion. For the first time, I identified and wanted to be a part of a group,   so I started my own blog to document my exploration of vintage fashion. Some OGs may remember,  my blog's initial name was Someone Like You. You can read my first post here.

FINDING MY STRIDE WITH VINTAGE: 2009 - 2011

Many of the first fashion blogs I first followed focused on true vintage styling. A few of my favorites were Strawberry Koi (now Aya Smith Art), A Clothes Horse, Wish Wish Wish, and Liebelmarine (now on stack), and I would discover up and coming bloggers on sites like Lookbook.nu and Chictopia. 

Movies and books also became huge sources of inspiration and education in my early days of learning about vintage. Here is one of those first light bulb moments for me in 2010.  I took on renewed interest in the local library to rent out classics like Casablanca, Roman Holiday and Breakfast at Tiffany's. 

1940s and 1950s quickly became my favorite decades, and my dad took me to the nearest vintage store 30 minutes away called Stitches in Time. What a magical memory I'll always hold close to my heart. I was 16, and this was my version of a mall. I received for Christmas from my parents in 2010 my first vintage pieces: a rainbow taffeta 1950s circle skirt and wide brimmed red straw hat. 

I wore full vintage to high school as I continued to delve deeper into the community over my junior and senior years. Coming home from school and sharing my outfits online with a community of vintage lovers from across the world excited me. I felt like I belonged -- something I longed for in small town Ohio. I was soon sharing daily, logging hundreds of outfit posts every year and investing a lot into my blog. Thrifting became an affordable way to continue exploring my new passion and I started sharing my hauls on the blog, too. 

Because of my blog, I knew I wanted to continue with a formal education in fashion, so in 2012 I began studying Fashion Merchandising at Kent State University. 

TWEE TAKE OVER: 2012 - 2016

In 2012 blogging was fading in popularity thanks to buzzy social media platforms like Instagram and Tumblr. People were still blogging, but blogs became a secondary priority to sharing on places that provided instant gratification, attention and growth opportunities.

While I was still running Someone Like You in college, my style started shifting out of true vintage and into twee vintage.  Twee was much more childlike and over-the-top feminine. Zooey Deschanel was the twee icon and It girls like Alexa Chung and Lana Del Rey were reblogged across every girl's Tumblr.  Alexa and Lana integrated many twee elements into their outfits like Peter Pan collars and flower crowns.

I dreamed of owning everything American Apparel (especially in the sunflower print), but the best I could do was one of their $20 hair bows. Fast Fashion brands like Forever21, Charlotte Russe and even dELiA*s (which was still around at the time) played heavily into vintage-inspired & twee styles.  This was how I supplemented my mostly-thrifted closet. If I was lucky, for Christmas or my birthday I would receive a dress from ModCloth, one of the biggest retro clothing retailers of the 2010s. One of my favorite dresses from Modcloth was cobalt blue with a subtle heart pattern and crochet Peter Pan collar. I wore it on Christmas Day after receiving it that morning and still have it hanging in my childhood bedroom in Ohio.

Some of my favorite pieces I loved to wear during this era were: circle skirts, Peter Pan collars, lace socks, knee high socks, ballet flats, lace everything, bow print, headbands, cat eye sunglasses, cardigans, flower crowns, pearls, locket necklaces. For most of the early 2010s I also has the go-to twee hairstyle: blunt bags. 

Often I look back on 2012 - 2016 as one of my personal favorite eras of style. While it doesn't feel right for me now at 30, it did when I was navigating the complexities of my early 20s. I found a lot of my identity in my personal style and the twee community. 

LOST IN THE TRENDS: 2016 - 2018

Once I graduated college in 2016, I moved to New York City. With two suitcases and no job I was determined to fit into the New York persona I'd been dreaming about since my internship at Cosmopolitan Magazine the previous summer. 

One thing about New York City is there will always be someone 'more' than you. More stylish. More beautiful. More wealthy. It's an impossible standard to keep up with and at 22, I thought I'd try. My first few years of living in NYC was chasing every trend I thought would make me stand out. After paying rent, what was left of my paltry paychecks went to shopping at Zara. I was working my first big girl job at Kiehl's with older and established co-workers who had the means to invest in what was stylish. It made me constantly feel insecure. Not just that I couldn't keep up with everyone else (in many aspects), but following trends didn't allow me to feel like my style was mine. I became a mix match of everything I absorbed in NYC and none of it was really reflective of who I was. 

Thrifting wasn't like it was back home, where it was easy and affordable to find vintage. I struggled with creating a wardrobe that felt like mine and it showed. 

CONSCIOUS STYLE: 2018 - 2020

In 2018 I'm 24 and working a more established job at a clothing brand. It feels good to be working in fashion, something my degree was actually in. It's around this time I also start digging deeper into sustainability. 

Around this time, I watched a documentary called The True Cost, about the shocking realities of the fashion industry, I was changed. I didn't want to buy fast fashion anymore. I felt like if I didn't know the true working conditions and pay of someone who made my clothes, I didn't want to buy it at all. I started researching ethical fashion brands who had more transparency. One of the first I discovered was Everlane, which felt like an anomaly back in 2018. They really were one of the first of its kind in transparency for consumers, and while I couldn't afford most of their pieces, I took to their philosophy. My new perspective on slow, intentional fashion also made me second-guess my job at The Gap. I felt morally torn working for a company that didn't align with my values and eventually switched back into beauty.

I started buying less and rewearing what I had more. I became really interested in remixing challenges and following capsule wardrobes. I wanted my outfit choices not just to make me feel good, but do good, as well. I stripped my style back to the basics and wore a lot of simple, classic and neutral pieces so I could optimize my closet. I started #PassingWhimsiesRemix on Instagram where I shared all the different ways you could wear an item, and it became one of my most popular series. My blog was mostly abandoned, sharing on 9 posts in all of 2018. It was too hard to keep up with multiple social platforms and juggle a full time blog. 

Thrifting my main source to get new (to me) clothes. Really other than the Everlane Boss Boots I saved up 6 months for or the upcycled Girlfriend leggings I became obsessed with, I committed to no longer buying clothes new from stores. 

Overtime, I began to find myself limited in my closet and uninspired. I had donated the more trend-forward pieces in favor of a cohesive and versatile wardrobe (peak 2010s millennial-core), but found myself lost again on what my style truly was when everything was stripped back.

Then the pandemic hit.

IN MY EXPLORATION ERA: 2020 - PRESENT

Suddenly getting dressed for my 9-5 at the office became 24/7 sweats or pajamas as I began working from home in 2020. I didn't own many leisure pieces at the time, but invested in some once I saw my new reality for the foreseeable future. The pandemic shut down any exploration of my style for months as I grappled with the uncertainty taking over the city at the height of the pandemic. I was alone in my apartment with no family and it was a difficult time. By the summer, I took to fashion again as a way to express myself during a time of uncertainty.

From 2020 to present, it's really been a continual exploration and evolution of my style. The pandemic awoke something within me: a creativity I hadn't explored since I was in high school. I got really into vintage again and dressing in all the different decades, but especially 90s. I started my TikTok account in 2020 and re-found my style on the app through discovering new accounts that tapped into 90s nostalgia. I'd always really loved 90s fashion, but I started doing more fully authentic looks and completely committed in 2022 when I cut my hair into a pixie.

I'm often asked what inspired me to go from a shoulder grazing bob to a pixie. I'd been in a relationship for 6 months with someone who didn't make me feel like myself. After it ended, I rebelled with my appearance. I pierced my nose, my ears and then cut all my hair off. It was liberating to explore this new physical expression of my style. There were a few months when I didn't know what the hell was going on with my style after I cut my hair short. I felt challenged by traditional gender norms and what short hair meant for the way I got dressed in the morning. 

It didn't mean shit. You can do anything, whether your hair is short or long, and I found a newfound freedom with no boundaries holding me back.

Last August, I turned 30 and I'm still unsure if it's placebo or real, but I do feel different. I feel hungry to discover what the next phase of my style is and ready to push the boundaries once again. I've been itching for something new for a while now, I'm just not quite sure what yet. I know that I do feel different and want to reflect that outwardly in where my style goes next.

With much love,

Lauren

7 Things to Know Before Getting Your First Pixie Cut

I've had my pixie cut for over two years but I still remember how scared and anxious I was before the big chop. Before going to a pixie length, I'd had a chin length bob for six years, so I was no stranger to short hair. Still, going from a bob to a pixie was nerve wracking and I learned a lot about my style and confidence in those first few months. You may be thinking of getting a pixie and feeling overwhelmed (and scared) where to start. 

If this is you, don't worry.  ☺ Here are 7 things I wish someone would have told me before getting a pixie cut to help you with your journey.

BEFORE THE CUT 

Start a Pinterest board.

Sometimes it's hard to describe what kind of hairstyle you're looking for when you don't know the technical terms. Visuals are always helpful to share with your stylist so they can get a feel for what you're looking. Starting a Pinterest board also gives you a personal space to save all of your ideas in one place, here is mine as an example. You'll start to see patterns in what you like and it will be helpful when narrowing down the exact cut you're looking for. 

Follow pixie accounts.

A great way to prep you for your pixie journey is to follow others who already have the cut on social media. It will help familiarize yourself seeing short hair on others so you can begin to imagine it on yourself. It's also a great way to gather styling inspiration in real time for when you go for the big chop. Here are some of my favorite pixie accounts. 

Research stylists. 

When making such a big change, you want to feel confident in your decision. Part of that comes from trusting your stylist. Look at your stylist's portfolio. Do they have examples of short hair? Do they cut short hair how you envision yours to look? If not, do some research in your area for stylists who specialize in short hair cuts, or even look into barbers. I have not gone to a barber, but so many women have shared great experiences with both male and female barbers cutting their hair (and it's usually cheaper!).

During my first pixie cut - I was so excited! 

DURING THE CUT

Put your best pixie self forward. 

Cutting your hair off can be a vulnerable experience, often marking a huge life change. I know for me I was 6 months out from a break up that really changed me, and I was ready to start fresh. The day off your appointment, wear what makes you feel most confident as you enter this chapter. I loved wearing a red lip and a vintage-inspired outfit to my appointment to channel my inner Audrey Hepburn. 

How my first pixie turned out, I was inspired by Audrey Hepburn!

A more recent trim -- totally different.

AFTER THE CUT

Know it's ok if you don't like it at first. 

Although I chose to go short and felt excited about my decision, it was still a difficult adjustment. I felt regret. It felt scary to have nothing to hide behind anymore, with the short cut placing all my features on full display. For a couple of weeks, I struggled to accept my newfound appearance. Cutting my hair impacted how I did my makeup, how I dressed and how I saw myself. 

It's ok if you don't fall in love with your cut at first like you thought you would. Cutting your hair is just as much an emotional change as it is physical. Be gentle with yourself as you adjust to your new appearance and know that if you don't love it, there is no shame in growing it out.

Be prepared to experiment. 

Like most people, I did a lot of research and prepping before getting a pixie. I had an entire Pinterest board full of different styles and types of pixies, but was completely overwhelmed at which style would be right for me. I know if feels important to get it right the first time, but I promise you it will probably take 3 or 4 trims until you find your personal groove.

Early on, I learned quickly on I didn't like the back to look flat, so I started having my stylist use clippers. Then, I wished it had more texture, so I brought in pictures to show and my stylist started using texturizing sheers. The slightest adjustment to a pixie can make a world of difference in your cut and your confidence, so keep communicating with your stylist until you reach pixie perfection. 

Styling makes a big difference. 

While pixie cuts are lower maintenance (for the most part) than longer hair, I find that it does help to have a few go-to products for styling. It's also just fun! No need to go out and buy a bunch of fancy products. Here are the basics to start with.

Pomades - thicker paste that helps you shape your pixie and provide medium hold

Gels - lighter-weight, max-hold products perfect for slicking down hair

Texture sprays - give you volume and texture without feeling heavy

Some of my favorites

I hope this post was helpful! Getting a pixie completely changed me. It empowered me to step into my best, most authentic self and I love helping others on their journey.

If you have pixie cut questions, send me a DM on Instagram (@passingwhimsies). 

With much love,

Lauren